Do you know who has the best opportunities to support single women? I’ll tell you! It is churches and women’s ministries! I think women’s ministries are positioned perfectly to create supportive and accepting atmospheres that embrace and celebrate single women’s different experiences. Listen, too many churches are “sleeping” on having ministry activities for single ladies in the church, and that’s a shame. Single women need the same sense of belonging as everyone else in the church. Maybe your women’s ministry can turn this around, and you could be intentional about ministry activities for single women.
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First, reaffirm that being a single woman of faith is okay!
Very often, churches almost “push” women toward marriage as though they are not complete as single women.
“I’ve got the perfect guy for you!” is something a single woman might hear time and time again at church – the place where she comes to feel accepted and loved.
Certainly, people don’t mean to be hurtful or judgemental, but those types of comments imply that single women are lacking something. It’s diminishing.
Aside from foolish, insensitive comments, another way churches and women’s ministries diminish the state of being single is by not providing opportunities to celebrate and validate their journey.
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Anyone who is ignored or unseen can soon begin to question their worth – especially in an authoritative environment like the church.
Even generically speaking, if you don’t acknowledge that someone has something different or make opportunities for their differences, it can be concluded [by them] that something is wrong with them or they are not welcome.
There is nothing wrong with being a single woman. Nothing.
Along the same lines, I think it’s important for women’s ministries to recognize that being single can mean different things for different people, like young adults, divorcees, or widows. That means your women’s ministry should work to reach them in their specific singleness state.
They will not want to do the same things or engage in the same activities.
Once you understand and respect single women come in a variety of experiences, I think you are better able to create meaningful activities to engage them and give them a fun, safe atmosphere conducive to friendship and spiritual growth.
Ministry activities for single women
For sure, you now know the intent of this blog post.
In short, I believe women’s ministries should have activities specifically designed for single women because doing so acknowledges and values the diversity among the female congregation. It also affirms them in the current life season.
Not only can the events give them that sense of belonging and membership. It also gives them other important benefits, like a supportive and inclusive environment where they can form meaningful connections, share their experiences, and build lasting friendships, fostering a sense of belonging within the church body.
My personal experience
When I was a young divorced mom, I remember feeling out of place during church events.
Sometimes, women would talk to me, but they didn’t do so for long once their husbands joined them in talking to me.
Conversations would be cut short, Honey.
Not all the time, but this was often the way things would go.
Yeah, I was a cutie, but I always respected couples and would direct my conversations and attention to the wives. That is how I was taught.
Once I joined the singles ministry there, I felt more of a tribe or group.
The only problem was that I dealt with the same issue with the single ministry- more men talked to me than women. Crazy!
Looking back in reflection, I wish we would have had a single women’s group that I could have been a part of and been able to build friendships with other single women like myself. But we didn’t have any ministry activities for single women.
Your women’s ministry can change that for single women!
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if your women’s ministry could build a bridge between the single women and the congregation full of families and couples? I think it can, and I don’t think it would be hard to get it started, either.
But first, before I give you some ideas for ministry activities for single women, let me clarify a few things.
- You do not have to be single to lead or create ministry activities for single women.
Years ago, I created a single moms support group. Soon, I’ll write about that experience and the lessons learned. Nevertheless, after I married, I stopped the group. However, I quickly found that the women didn’t care that I got married. They cared about fun, engaging activities and speakers that met their life needs. They also valued the fact that I didn’t think I was “better” because I was married. All I was was a woman who cared about them. They responded to that.
- A leader shares the vision. If you are not single and want to start a women’s ministry, you can! You don’t have to know everything or do everything. You recruit people to help you in the women’s ministry. Ideally, recruit single women who know what it’s like to be single in today’s society. Share your vision and empower your team – that’s what a true leader does.
- If you do this right, Women’s Ministry Leader, you will create a fantastic group for the women because you’ll let them dictate it. This means you’ll share the power, and you’ll survey the women to ask them what they want. Then, you’ll step out of the way and watch God work. This means you’ll not micromanage but let the process unfold and trust God for the outcome.
Now, let’s get to the ministry activity ideas for single women!
Feel free to adapt them as needed. Here are my ideas:
Spiritual guidance and counseling services: I hate to start on a serious note, but being single can be hard. It can be emotionally taxing for a lot of reasons. Some of these are loneliness, feeling out of place, financial challenges, and insecurity. One source I found says singles can feel pain that is so harrowing it’s like physical pain (Coan et al., 2006).
Hosting a Christian mental health retreat for singles could help, just as having a single women’s conference or a single women’s retreat could help. It can provide a platform to address the unique challenges and questions that single women may encounter in their faith journey.
Singles Ministry Night for Women: you could host a night with popcorn featuring Christian videos or movies. It could be fun to view sermons on singleness and talk about them for an evening. The key is if married women do come, they should not contribute to the conversation unless asked or invited. They could be there to help and serve the ladies.
Singles Bible Studies: Maybe try to have specific Bible studies for single women to talk about topics like their singleness, relationships, and personal fulfillment, providing Biblical insights and practical advice.
Single Lady Christian Mentoring: this isn’t an activity but more of a program. But, you could design mentorship programs that pair spiritually mature singles with less mature single women for the purpose of offering guidance, encouragement, and support in navigating the ups and downs of single woman life. Oh, how I wish I had something like that years ago.
Single Sister Networking Event: How about hosting some fun, light-hearted networking events or super fun social mixers where women can casually meet and mingle with one another? These events can have cool icebreakers and fun activities to get the conversation flowing. New friendships can be born!
Make it a night of discussion: I simply LOVE panel discussions. Hosting panel discussions on relevant topics Christian single women deal with can spark good conversations. The key is not to limit the conversations to the panelists. Here are my ideas:
- Invite Christian women from a variety of spheres, careers, and churches.
- Ask them to share their insights on different topics with the ladies. BUT BEFORE THEY DO: Ask a question and have ladies talk among themselves about the topic, record key thoughts from their conversations, and then have the panelists share their thoughts or vice versa.
- Allow the ladies to share their group’s comments with the room. Then, the conversation ensues.
You will think of your own ground rules for this ministry activity for single women, but make sure it’s interactive. Unless you have Priscilla Shire sitting with Laurie Crouch next to CeCe Winans, the women will not want to just listen to the panel talk for hours.
Consider themed ministry activities for single women, like:
Single Christian women in business (for existing and future entrepreneurs). You could frame this as an “expo” featuring Christian single businesswomen. The single women could stroll and discover the businesses of other singles and maybe be inspired to start their own business! Engaging workshops about starting a business could be a great follow-up activity for the ladies.
Single Women Spa Night. Of course, I have ideas for you to do a spa night! Here is what you can do:
- Set the Mood: Create a relaxing atmosphere by dimming the lights, lighting scented candles, and playing soothing music. Consider using essential oil diffusers to fill the room with calming aromas.
- DIY Face Masks: Ladies can work together to prepare a variety of homemade face masks using natural ingredients like honey, yogurt, avocado, and cucumber. Each guest can choose their preferred mask based on their skin type. Then apply them and leave the event with beaming skin!
- Foot Soak: Prepare a luxurious foot soak station where the ladies can immerse their feet in warm water infused with Epsom salts, rose petals, or essential oils. Providing a few bowls of different temperatures will add some excitement. I’m a big fan of advising ladies to bring their own items. But, if you charge a fee, you and your team can get the things and bring them to the event.
- Manicure and Pedicure: Gather an assortment of nail polishes, files, and other nail care tools. Take turns giving each other manicures and pedicures. You can also experiment with different nail art designs or try trendy nail wraps. Each lady could bring her own – again, that’s my favorite way to plan an event.
Cooking or Baking Classes are fun in groups! Learn to cook or bake something yummy together. Sharing culinary experiences can be so much fun and provide opportunities to bond over a love of food. Hey, this sounds like so much fun! Invite me! Seriously, Google “cooking classes near me,” and lots of sources will likely come up. Or you can check to see if your city is listed here: https://www.delish.com/food/g25462532/best-cooking-classes/
Travel! Girl, Go!
Group Travel for single Christian women is a great idea: Plan group trips or vacations. Traveling together allows for shared adventures and deepens connections through some extraordinary shared experiences! It could be like one great, big slumber party!
“Girl, I like that too!” Events. Doing some shared interest ministry activities for single women like painting, knitting, sewing, crocheting, and book clubs focusing on certain genres. Other ideas that could span weeks are episodic events could be:
- Outdoorsy stuff – camping, fishing, hiking, skydiving, swimming (hmm…I think that is more fitness), boating, and evening taking an outdoor cooking class!
- History Buffs – research or read books on historical topics or do family DNA tests together, and then each person does a genealogy investigation and discusses results and techniques. Another idea is to research church history as a group and find a way to honor those who have gone before you.
- Restaurant Crawl for the foodies in the group. Take a month and explore local restaurants together. Don’t forget to take pictures!
Fitness and Wellness Experiences as ministry activities for single women: You guys can:
- Group fitness classes (e.g., Pilates, dance). Shucks, you can even organize YouTube video workouts! The point is to be together, right?
- Running or jogging clubs: no explanation needed. Hit up the local walking track or take the fun outdoors.
- Healthy cooking or meal prep workshops: a kind sister could open her large kitchen, or maybe you can use the kitchen at your church. This could even be a fun virtual event. You all follow the same recipe and cook on Zoom!
- Zumba or Dance Fitness Classes: Organize Zumba or another dance fitness class. These are great workouts and a lot of fun. Best part is you can find them on YouTube! Dancing to music can make the workout feel like a party.
I’ll never forget when I organized Saturday morning workouts for the ladies at our church. I really enjoyed it. The only reason I stopped was to take my mother-in-law to the farmers market on Saturdays. Gee, I enjoyed getting fit with those ladies.
- Create a Concert Crew: Get the ladies together to attend a different concert or show once a month for six months. Attend theater performances or art exhibitions each week.
- Eco, Environmental and Sustainability Activities:
- Planning awareness campaigns for the church on conservation and using resources wisely
- Gardening or community garden projects. Grow food and share with the community around your church. Here is a resource: https://extension.missouri.edu/publications/mp906?p=1
- Recycling or clean energy initiatives.
- Sustainable living workshops.
- Tree planting or conservation efforts.
- Eco-friendly DIY projects.
- Woodworking Projects: Use woodworking skills to build birdhouses, planters, or tool sheds.
- Sports Women Ministry activities for single women: Basketball, pickleball, tennis, pool, golf – all these could be fun lessons to do as a group, too!
- Tie-Dye Workshops: Explore tie-dye techniques on clothing, fabrics, or accessories. It’s a fun and colorful group activity.
- Create homemade cards for ministry activities for single women.
These are just a few ministry activities for single women. There are so many other things you can do. Here’s the secret. Single women are no different from other people. The key is to do the activities with them and give them their own space. In fact, the most important key is to ASK them what they want to do!
When you think about ministry activities for single women, think about asking them how the women’s ministry can address their specific needs and challenges.
Just like anyone else, I beleieve they they want relevant experiences in the format of engaging workshops or seminars that provide practical guidance and inspiration on topics such as embracing singleness with purpose, cultivating thriving relationships, and achieving a healthy work-life balance.
Looking back on my single experience – many years ago – I’d add to the list financial classes, mental well-being, and personal development.
Let’s use women’s ministry to empower and validate the single women in the congregation and community!
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Coan, J. A., Schaefer, H. S., & Davidson, R. J. (2006). Lending a hand. Psychological Science, 17(12), 1032–1039. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01832.x