Reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events
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Reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events

Here’s a fun topic (not really.) Seriously, let’s talk about the top reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events. In moments when attendance at women’s ministry events is lower than anticipated, it’s natural to feel disheartened or frustrated, right?

However, remember that the impact of our efforts extends far beyond the numbers.

Every event, whether attended by a handful or a crowd, provides an opportunity for meaningful connection, spiritual growth, and community building among the ladies.

As women’s ministry leaders and volunteers, we are privileged to create spaces where women feel seen, heard, and valued, regardless of the turnout.

I think it is important to focus on the quality of engagement rather than the quantity of attendees, cherishing each interaction as an opportunity to sow seeds of encouragement and inspiration.

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Remind yourself that your ministry’s influence extends beyond what you can immediately see, and every moment you spend nurturing women’s hearts and souls contributes profoundly to their Godly empowerment and Christian transformation.

Stay encouraged, stay resilient, and continue to shine your light brightly in the lives of those you serve. Forget about the numbers!

In my mind’s eye, I think Jesus would have preached the same way had he 5 or 5,000. Don’t you agree?

I will begin this women’s ministry article by questioning the common association of attendance numbers with event success and highlighting its limitations. It’s a faulty way of thinking, in my opinion. In fact, I think it is a worldly way of thinking.

After that, I will discuss redefining success in women’s ministry events, emphasizing the importance of quality over quantity.

Ready? Let’s go!

Number are not a factor when thinking about why women aren't attending your women's ministry events.

After any event I’ve done, my husband’s first question is, “How many came?”  This question bugs me to no end.


Because attendance numbers alone do not define the success of women’s ministry events. 

While a high turnout can be energizing and affirming, the true measure of success lies in the depth of impact and the quality of women’s connections during the gathering. Whether attended by a few or many, each event holds the potential to sow seeds of transformation and empowerment in the lives of those present.

Meaningful conversations, moments of inspiration, and opportunities for spiritual growth can occur regardless of the size of the audience!

Focus on creating women’s ministry events spaces where ladies feel valued, supported, and encouraged on their journeys. 

So, as you continue to read my thoughts, challenge yourself to shift your focus from using numbers as a measure of quality.

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Think of good women’s ministry events as a brand.

Numbers will come as word spreads about what God is doing through your ministry!

At my church, I lead a group of minister’s wives.  

Before I assumed leadership of this group, I learned the group rarely had more than a few people actively involved at any given time.

I found that daunting but learned not to care.

Once the Lord drilled everything I’m sharing with you into my head, my mantra for every meeting or event became “whosoever will.”  

That means whoever comes will come, and whoever doesn’t does not.

I’ve even told them once that if I’m the only one in the conference room, it’s still a ministers’ wives meeting – it just means the votes will go my way. Haha 

Seriously, I’ve worked hard to pray about those meetings and allow the Holy Spirit to guide them.  

As a result, they are so well attended that it astounds me each meeting.  

In my opinion, the reason is that over time, one minister’s wives found value and shared it with another minister’s wife.  She came, and then she shared with another. It took time to build that “street cred.”

The same may be true for your ministry, too.  

It may take time to advance your ministry’s reputation.

Be consistent, remove barriers prohibiting attendance, and watch your group grow in God’s timing. 

Low attendance at women’s ministry events can stem from various factors, both internal and external. 

Internally, participants may face scheduling conflicts due to busy lives, work commitments, or family responsibilities. It could also be because the church isn’t helping you promote the events.

More often than not, real life imposes.

As you know, moms carry a load of responsibilities.

Unfortunately, this can prevent them from attending the very events that will help them be better wives, moms, and women in general.

They may feel pressure to prioritize their other obligations over self-care or spiritual enrichment, which can lead to decreased participation in your women’s ministry events.

Additionally, personal circumstances such as health issues, financial constraints, or caregiving duties (I can relate to that one) may hinder ladies from attending your women’s ministry events. 

Women may not feel your event is relevant to them

The world defines being a woman very differently from the Bible.

I believe external factors, such as cultural norms or societal trends, can also play a significant role. 

While essential in fostering community and spiritual growth, women’s ministry events can sometimes contradict prevailing social trends.

This “contradiction” might stem from differing values, interests, or the fast-paced evolution of societal norms that challenge traditional views. 

That makes us unpopular to spiritually immature or unsaved women.

For example, as society increasingly embraces a wide spectrum of gender identities and more liberal (I am not referring to politics) viewpoints on women’s roles, some traditional faith-based events may not fully align with these shifts, leading to potential disconnects with broader, especially younger women.

Balancing these dynamics requires careful consideration, open dialogues, and perhaps a rethinking of how these events can be inclusive while staying true to their core principles.

I am not advocating for compromising.

Education on Christian female identities aligns more with what I’m referring to here.  The world’s culture has seeped into the church.  

There is no doubt about that.  

This has resulted in many women abandoning God’s purposes for a more worldly perspective. Women’s ministry can help teach what it means to be a Godly woman. Right? Read my article on the characteristics of Godly women. It may inspire you!

The point is that some women may not attend women’s ministry events because their view of what it means to be a Godly woman is slanted. 

Overcoming reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events

Your women’s ministry events could be a little outdated.

Girl, has the world changed?!

One of the reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events is because they are old-fashioned or one-note.

You also must consider that societal shifts towards increased digital connectivity and virtual interactions may pose challenges for traditional in-person gatherings. 

Like it or not, some younger women aren’t into getting dressed on weekends and driving to an event. 

Additionally, evolving attitudes towards Christianity may influence women’s preferences and priorities regarding their involvement in ministry activities.

TikTok has become a sort of church of its own. For better or for worse, young women can hop on there for spiritual teaching, and many do.

Don’t knock it. There are some good Christian snippets on TikTok, but they are just that—snippets. 

Stay up to date with what women are interested in.

It’s important for women’s ministry leaders to stay aware of current trends and update methods to stay relevant and engage the women’s ministry communities. I have a curriculum that might help.

The older I get, the more I realize I must do what the younger ladies want to do sometimes. If that means I have to go to the cooking classes or paint, I’ll do it. Frankly, I hate both, but they seem to be a “thing” with the younger ladies these days. 😀

Don't make assumptions

Don’t be jerky about their not attending. 

It is so easy to blame the victim, isn’t it?

I did it before.

Years ago, I had an attitude about mothers not coming to my mothers’ group. I was like, “They are too busy doing ____ or doing ____ to come fellowship with God’s people.”

The truth is that my events were boring!

As I mentioned, that may be one reason women are not coming to your women’s ministry events, too.

Listen, rejection is hard in whatever form it comes in.  

As a women’s ministry leader or ministry volunteer, you work so hard planning amazing women’s events. 

You invest your time preparing them and likely spend some of your money, too. 

When women don’t show, it can be a natural response to blame the women or say, “They said they wanted this event, but they didn’t even come!”

I’ve been there, and it is so frustrating. Still, I encourage you to cut them some slack. 

Empathy has a role in women’s ministry. Yes, I believe it with my whole heart.

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Empathy is crucial when considering the reasons for low attendance, as each participant’s situation is unique and valid. 

Rather than jumping to conclusions or making assumptions, it’s essential to approach the issue with understanding and compassion.

As you know, women’s ministry leaders should strive to create an inclusive and supportive environment where participants feel comfortable expressing their challenges and needs without judgment.

By actively listening to attendees’ concerns and empathizing with their circumstances, you can better tailor women’s ministry events to meet the diverse needs of the women you want to serve.

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Understanding the intricate aspects of participants’ lives and recognizing the various external influences that can affect their attendance is crucial for nurturing empathy in women’s ministry.

You can show empathy by being flexible with event times, helping people deal with usual challenges, and fostering a supportive and understanding community environment.

Flexible events may mean you do the same event more than once. This will accommodate those who couldn’t make the first one.

Another benefit is that if the first women’s ministry was awesome, you give those participants time to brag about it with others, thereby triggering more participants for the second or third one! That’s the second time I have referenced that, but why didn’t I do that? Geez!

Ways to provide resources could include, of course, babysitting or childcare during events. Utilize teens, college students, or members of your church’s nursery.  

This could also be a great opportunity for the seniors (or church mothers) to serve.  Most seniors love little ones.  Tap into that “untapped” resource!

The significance of meaningful connections and transformative experiences in women’s ministry cannot be overstated.

These elements serve as the lifeblood of community and personal growth within such settings. 

Meaningful connections foster participants’ sense of belonging, support, and understanding, creating a safe space for vulnerability and authenticity.

Through shared experiences, women can forge deep bonds, find encouragement in times of need, and celebrate each other’s triumphs. 

Moreover, transformative experiences can ignite spiritual growth, inspire personal development, and catalyze positive change in individuals’ lives.

Whether through profound revelations, moments of spiritual clarity, or collective empowerment, these experiences serve as catalysts for inner transformation and empowerment, enriching each participant’s journey in profound ways.

In essence, meaningful connections and transformative experiences are the heart and soul of women’s ministry, driving its mission to empower, uplift, and nurture the spiritual well-being of women everywhere.

I hope these were helpful considerations. If not, here are literally one hundred reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events.

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I’ve got a long list…let’s go!

  1. Conflicting schedules with work commitments
  2. Family obligations, such as childcare or caring for elderly relatives
  3. Lack of interest in the event’s topic or theme
  4. Financial frugality preventing attendance – like they have the money but don’t want to spend it.
  5. Health issues or personal wellness concerns
  6. Feeling overwhelmed by other responsibilities
  7. Geographic distance from the event venue
  8. Transportation limitations, such as lack of access to reliable transportation
  9. Feeling disconnected from the women’s ministry community
  10. Prior negative experiences at similar events
  11. Fear of judgment or discomfort in social settings
  12. Cultural differences that make the event feel unwelcoming
  13. Burnout from attending too many events in the past
  14. Feeling introverted or preferring solitude over group gatherings
  15. Lack of awareness about the event or its benefits
  16. Feeling disconnected from the event’s theme or message
  17. Time conflicts with other personal interests or hobbies
  18. Feeling overwhelmed by the busyness of everyday life
  19. Social anxiety or shyness preventing participation
  20. Dissatisfaction with past event experiences (ugh)
  21. Inaccessibility for individuals with disabilities
  22. Lack of diversity or inclusivity in the event’s programming
  23. Unavailability of childcare services during the event
  24. Financial constraints preventing participation in event-related activities or purchases
  25. The perception that the event is geared toward a specific demographic and doesn’t cater to their needs (i.e., young people or older people)
  26. Lack of perceived value in attending the event as a whole
  27. Discomfort with the event’s religious or spiritual focus
  28. The perception that the event is cliquey or exclusive
  29. Feeling overwhelmed by the prospect of meeting new people
  30. Preference for alternative forms of self-care or relaxation
  31. Perceived lack of relevance to their current life circumstances
  32. Feeling disconnected from the event’s promotional messaging 
  33. Feeling intimidated by the event’s size or expected attendance
  34. Unwillingness to step outside their comfort zone
  35. Perception that the event is too formal or structured
  36. Lack of confidence in their ability to engage in event activities or discussions
  37. Perception that the event is too focused on fundraising or soliciting donations
  38. Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of participating in group activities or discussions
  39. Perception that the event is too focused on promoting a specific ideology or belief system
  40. Feeling disconnected from the event’s organizers or leaders
  41. Perception that the event’s programming is too repetitive or predictable (i.e., been there, done that)
  42. Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of attending an event alone
  43. Perception that the event is too cliquey or exclusive
  44. Feeling disconnected from the event’s community or purpose
  45. Unwillingness to invest time or energy in attending events outside of work or family commitments
  46. Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of participating in group discussions or activities
  47. Lack of confidence in their ability to contribute meaningfully to event discussions or activities
  48. Feeling disconnected from the event’s theme or purpose
  49. Concerns about personal safety or security at the event venue (Deacons come in really handy – ask them to be onsite!)
  50. Perception that the event’s programming is too focused on socializing rather than spiritual or Christian growth
  51. Lack of perceived value in attending events outside of work or family commitments
  52. Unwillingness to commit to attending events regularly
  53. Feeling overwhelmed by the thought of navigating event logistics
  54. Lack of flexibility in the event’s scheduling
  55. Perception that the event’s programming is too formal or structured
  56. Feeling intimidated by the thought of attending events alone
  57. Perception that the event’s programming is too generic or surface-level

I want you to notice how many barriers are rooted in what women believe to be true. In other words, look how often the word “perception” appears. As you plan your event, try to address these perceptions directly. Also, leverage them in your marketing events.

I have a sample next!

Let me share an example. In your marketing materials, you can attempt to address some other trepidations or reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events.

For instance, your flyer or marketing post could say something like:

Dear Sisters,

Are you longing for authentic connections and meaningful friendships with fellow women on your Christian journey?

Look no further! Our upcoming women’s ministry event, “All Sisters Welcome Sisterhood Circle: Building Lasting Connections,” is specifically designed to help you forge deep and lasting friendships while nurturing your spiritual growth.

Why Attend?

  1. Overcome Scheduling Conflicts: We understand that balancing work, family, and other commitments can make it challenging to prioritize socializing. That’s why our event offers flexible scheduling options, including evening sessions and weekend gatherings, to accommodate your busy lifestyle.
  2. Embrace Diversity: Feeling disconnected due to cultural or religious differences? Our Sisterhood Circle welcomes women from all backgrounds and walks of life, fostering a rich tapestry of experiences and perspectives that enrich our community.
  3. Create Safe Spaces: Worried about feeling judged or uncomfortable in social settings? At our Sisterhood Circle, we prioritize creating a safe and supportive environment where vulnerability is embraced, and authenticity is celebrated. Come as you are, and feel free to share your joys, struggles, and aspirations without fear of judgment. You will NOT feel alone. We promise.
  4. Nurture Lasting Bonds: Tired of superficial interactions that don’t lead to meaningful connections? Our event offers guided activities, small-group discussions, and one-on-one bonding opportunities designed to foster deep and authentic friendships that extend beyond the event.

Join us for an uplifting and empowering experience as we come together to cultivate sisterhood, support, and spiritual growth. Don’t miss out on this chance to build lasting connections and find your tribe!

Event Details:
Date: [Insert Date]
Time: [Insert Time]
Location: [Insert Venue]

RSVP today to reserve your spot in our Sisterhood Circle! Together, let’s embark on a journey of friendship, support, and spiritual enrichment.

With love and anticipation,
[Your Women’s Ministry Team]

[Contact Information]
[Social Media Handles for your women’s ministry]

This marketing piece (and you are welcome to copy and use it) hits #12, #28, #36, and #59. I could actually name more, but you get the picture.

(Take the meat and leave the bones. In other words, extract the information about marketing…leave the rest.)

So, there you have it. Lots of reasons women are not coming to your women’s ministry events and some practical things you can do about it.

Look, God called you to this role and will bring you your harvest. Listen to His voice and His guidance. Stay consistent, and don’t give up! You can do this!

Best part is if you reach only one woman – you’ve done women’s ministry! Heyyyy! 🙂

What’s missing from this women’s ministry blog post? Add your insights in the comments below. I genuinely welcome your insights so we can all be better at women’s ministry and minimize the reasons women are not coming to your events.

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